ProjectRefinedLife is transferring it’s web-hosting service

I’ve made the decision to transfer my blog’s web hosting. Please, please be patient with me. My blog might not be affected at all but just in case, it should be back up and running soon.

In the meantime, I have plenty of posts with more fun events scheduled and waiting  for you. Thank you for your continued support as my blog continues to grow.

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Nothing but Treats for October

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It’s the first day of October and Halloween will here before you know it. It’s been a long time since I’ve been this excited about Halloween but this year it’s different, maybe it’s the effect of all these the oils, Bawhahaha (that was my witch laugh).

We’ve even put up our Christmas tree that will transition from now through December as a Halloween Tree to a Thankful Tree to a Christmas tree, this should be fun!

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Things to look forward to this month; lots and lots of Halloween events, the new schedule for the  FREE Jr. Chef classes and Technique classes at Williams-Sonoma, some really great Science/Stem events. (Halloween and Science go so well together), and some awesome educational events.

October is also Red Ribbon month, so you’ll also see several posts about Red Ribbon week/month (I already started with a few of those posts), don’t forget about Kidvasion (kids get free, food, rides and admission)  all over in San Diego this month.

And of course you’ll get to hear all about my Essential Oils and adventures in Girl Scouting. So, get ready because all of my volunteer hats are on!

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30 Things to Stop Doing to Yourself

So here it goes…lately, I have been feeling overwhelmed. Between all of the volunteer hats I have taken on, being a mother, homework, trying to home school my 4 year old, trying to keeping up the with house, cooking, etc, etc, etc., I am definitely over whelmed with “to do’s”.

As a direct result of my “Yes, I can help” attitude I now must learn to come from a “No, I’m sorry I can’t” place.  I must learn to take time out for me. I was looking over my last few weeks and didn’t see any “me” time anywhere.  I must learn to say “no” to opportunities to help or volunteer with anything else (my plate is full), I must learn to ask for help and back out of commitments that will put me over the edge.  I must learn to focus on the things and volunteer opportunities that bring out the best in me without cutting my self short.

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As God’s timing is perfect, I just happened to find this post from marcandangel.com, I think I’ll print this out and put it on my forehead through out my home.

30 Things to Stop Doing to Yourself.

A Rush of Emotions

Birthday’s and Anniversary’s are always hard. Contrary to the popular saying, I know first hand that “Time does NOT heal all wounds”. It’s hard for people who have never lost a son or daughter to understand the tremendous grief that resides within you.
     Time teaches you to walk with your grief. It’s hard for the people around you to understand and my hope is that they would never understand, for that would mean they are suffering the same pain.  
     Today is my handsome Son’s birthday. I remember all the wonderful, funny and silly things he did. The sound of his guitar ringing through the house, his slicked back hair and 501 jeans. I love you and miss you everyday may you play your guitar with the angels, until we meet again my son. 
Michael
 Originally posted in  MADD.org.blog, September 11, 2014

As with any tragedy, there comes a time to observe the traumatic event’s anniversary. Many people believe that grief will wane with time. However, feelings of anger, guilt, isolation, loneliness, sadness and despair often occur long after the disaster. 

On the anniversary of the September 11th disaster, many people find themselves once again contemplating the event and its tragic consequences.

Life threatening trauma, including learning that a loved one has been seriously injured or killed, can provoke unsettling emotional or behavioral reactions over a long period of time.

We always say: First there’s the crash, then the lifelong impact.

For many victims the anniversary of a tragic event, no matter how many years have gone by, may make the loss more real and bring out a rush of emotions.  Often the pain increases and becomes more intense following the first anniversary.  This is a normal reaction. Grief is a journey and everyone grieves in their own way.

hands-support-2Here are a few tips to keep in mind for an anniversary of a tragic event:

  • Talk.  Unspeakable trauma becomes more manageable when it’s verbalized. Individuals who were personally affected by a tragedy, but have not talked to anyone should seek support. Those who were not personally affected but are experiencing some hypersensitivity, should also talk to someone who understands trauma.
  • Honor individual differences in trauma reaction. Your way is not the only way. Respect the different ways in which people continue to cope. People cope the best way they can.
  • Reach out and remember those more directly affected. Many people who are grieving feel that friends, family, and their community have “forgotten” about them. This can lead to increased feelings of isolation and loneliness. Reach out and listen to their stories. Although they may say the same things over and over, honor these experiences by listening rather than giving advice or telling them that “time heals all wounds.”
  • Do something to help. Recognize the possible reactions to the anniversary. Remember that those directly affected may not be the only ones to experience anniversary reactions. Emphasize that people can be helped by small deeds.  Plant a tree or perennial plant in memory of a loved one who died or in honor of someone who was injured.
  • Seek professional support.  Recognize that grieving is normal, but encourage people to seek professional support when they need it.

If you are struggling with grief, call 877.MADD.HELP to speak with a victim advocate, day or night.

– See more at: http://www.madd.org/blog/2014/september/anniversary.html#sthash.Eps0WI9n.dpuf

Back to Scouting and my Girl Scout Leader Jitters.

I have the most adorable Girl Scout Troop! 11 bouncing Brownies, full of energy, opinions and spunk.

Tonight, is our first meeting after taking a summer break. At our end of year celebration in June, I fully intended on getting together for at least one meeting during the summer…but we didn’t. Summer was busy and I took my Girl Scout Leader hat off, I’m glad I did. I really needed the rest, leading a troop meeting can be exhausting.

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10 of my brillant Brownies at Carol Fallon Riding Center

As I am preparing for tonight’s meeting I find myself feeling nervous. Why I am feeling so jittery about leading 11 girls through an 1.5 hour meeting? Quality. I really believe in the Girl Scout program. I love what it does for the girls and the opportunities it presents. I want to give them the best experience, the best quality I can possibly provide.

I want them engaged, learning and having fun. I want them to want to be involved in Girl Scouts, even if I’m not their leader. So, I feel the pressure of providing good content. I’m usually exhausted at the end of meeting because I give it everything I’ve got for those 1.5 hour meetings, which is good but exhausting. These girls  have no idea how much they motivate me to do better.

Tonight’s meeting agenda is set. Today, I will be shopping for everything needed to complete our badge work and I will (as I always do) continue thinking of ways to make it better….all day.

As with all things in my life, I am my biggest competition. My jitters come from a desire to have these girls look back at these times as some of the most refining times in their lives. So, with this in mind – please pray for me and I’ll update you on our meeting next week.

Until then, Happy Scouting!